I recently read a book by Jen Sincero entitled YOU are a BADASS at MAKING MONEY‘ The books concept centres around manifestation, thoughts becoming words and words impacting your reality.
I’ve always been very sceptical when it comes to the subject of manifestation as it can sometimes begin to go down a path similar to shirk or self amazement (in my opinion).For example, the author frequently mentions the ‘universe’ and visualising what you want in order for it to come into being.
On one level this idea makes sense to me as I have witnessed the result of speaking situations into being. However, much of it does not sit well with my spirit as Allah is the creator of the universe so how can the universe do anything to benefit me? Everything has already been written so how can my thoughts alter that?
Whilst reading this book I had to stop every now and then to reconcile what the author was saying with what I believe and what Islam teaches. One thing that instantly made a difference to my scepticism was whenever Sincero made a reference to the ‘Universe’ I would replace it with ‘Allah’
I was impacted the most by the idea of my thoughts becoming my reality and how that affects Qadar of Allah. I know that Allah is Al Qadir – capable of ALL things! There is nothing I want that He cannot give me.
After reading the book I realise that my tawakkal in Allah is very weak – subhan allah! There are times when I will make dua, then have thoughts like, “If I don’t have children then…If I don’t get married then…” or “Im just not good enough to…so ill do…instead” This tells me I don’t really believe that Allah will give me what I have asked him for as I am doubting him before my head has even left the prayer mat!
Upon deep inspection of myself I realise that from the age of 18, when I experienced one of the most painful experiences a woman can go through, I have taken on what I call a ‘realist’ mindset of preparing for the worst outcome as a form of protection. This has filtered down to all areas of my life. If I expect the worse and good happens I’m happy. And if I expect the worse and it comes true then I’m not surprised or disappointed.
Sincero has given me a renewed realisation and understanding of the Hadith Qudsi where The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
“Allah the Most High said, ‘I am as My servant thinks (expects) I am…” ~ Sahih Bukhari
If I am making dua and at the same time not truly believing that Allah is Al Mujib and will respond, then that is exactly what the outcome will be. If I am constantly thinking from a place of negativity I will go through life living on a frequency of doubt in myself and Allah, then I leave little room for success.
I am now consciously rewiring my brain to have good expectations of Allah in my thoughts, my words and my deeds. Knowing that Allah has made me in the best form and given me all I need to be a success in this life and the next, Insha Allah.
It is up to me to be positive and leave the negative thoughts at the door! Focus on putting fourth my best effort knowing that if what I want is good for me Al Wahhab will bestow it upon me. If what I want is not good for me Al Mani will withold it from me and protect me.
‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud (radi Allahu anhu) said:
“By the One besides Who none is worthy of worship, the believer is not given anything good, better than his good expectations of Allah, and by the One besides Who none is worthy of worship, no servant of Allah expects good of Him except that Allah gives him what he expected, since all good is in His Hand.” [Husn adh-Dhann bi Allah]